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Thanks for sharing your story. After 3 months of No Contact after much history, my LO came back to work part-time for 5 months and her role finished last week. We definitely were friendly in the office and kept in ledderhose disease progression touch these last few months and had lunch last Wednesday. I will also admit that we did continue a closeness ledderhose disease progression after No Contact ended that definitely involved sharing (mostly via email), as that was our modus operandi during my limerence. We were both trying to figure things out. This recent period was surprisingly bearable (the time before No Contact I had much less control ledderhose disease progression of my life), but the scars of limerence were still there, as well as lower level limerence too. There is love between us, but it is not destined to be.

I am not sure if No Contact has started again. What I mean by that, is that I am not reaching out to LO, but I also do not have her blocked. And there will be future times when we cross paths. While she was at the office, I needed to do what I had to in order ledderhose disease progression to manage my limerence since I would be around her. I also continued to learn about myself. Her presence is a real trigger (REALLY!? LOL), so I expect to be productive today as there is ledderhose disease progression no chance of seeing her. I’m sure she will email me at some point and ledderhose disease progression we’ll see what happens from there. I know how attributes of her personality fan the flames ledderhose disease progression of my limerence and these are attributes that in my ledderhose disease progression younger and single days would have shut everything down on ledderhose disease progression my end before it began. STAY AWAY FROM THIS ONE-IT WILL ONLY BRING PAIN

My limerence began with being work friends for a few ledderhose disease progression years, combined with mutual attraction. Then came a point where we began to discuss life ledderhose disease progression during lunch, and a different closeness developed, but not yet the crushing limerence. However in hindsight, this closeness was a set up for the inevitable bomb ledderhose disease progression of limerence, which was set off when she announced she was leaving ledderhose disease progression the office. At the time, I had no idea why my life spun completely out ledderhose disease progression of control. I could not hide my emotions completely from my SO, and I did admit to SO that I was sad ledderhose disease progression from LO leaving work but I framed it more as ledderhose disease progression being disappointed with my office for the circumstances that led ledderhose disease progression to her departure. But my grief was unbearable. I would have paid anything for this EDC 2 years ledderhose disease progression ago.

I can relate to this comment so much, my limerence “bomb” went off when my LO’s SO dropped her bundle and we had a fall ledderhose disease progression out (up till then his SO and I were good friends). I was so confused, I couldn’t understand why she was so angry, I honestly could not see what I’d done wrong. Looking back with clearer eyes I can see our constant ledderhose disease progression talking (nothing intimate though), body language and perhaps my LO’s extra laser attention on me set off alarm bells ledderhose disease progression in her. There was a mutual attraction (again in hindsight) and we thought ignoring it and pretending it wasn’t there would make it go away. When I had the fall out with LO’s SO I was devastated and distraught, I could not work out why my feelings were so ledderhose disease progression intense, I think I cried for days and my SO was ledderhose disease progression bemused but not suspicious. Thus began the slippery slope of over analysing every word ledderhose disease progression and look, obsessing, rehashing past conversations (this one in particular drove me nuts), and being super sensitive of LO’s presence almost to hyper levels. I don’t know what agreement was made between my LO and ledderhose disease progression his SO but they both withdrew from me (understandably), I was angry, hurt, confused and had violent mood swings bordering depression. To confuse matters more after 2 months NC LO re-established contact and we “drifted” with no turbulence for 6 months, it was torture 2nd guessing his every move, walking on eggshells around his SO. Ten months later his SO and I have mended fences ledderhose disease progression and we have a cautious but friendly relationship, the only fly in the ointment is my persistent and ledderhose disease progression intrusive feelings for him which waxes and wanes like a ledderhose disease progression roller coaster.

So today again I didn’t see his car on the road but I did ledderhose disease progression see it parked in its usual spot for coffee. No massive mood swings but I did almost go in, even had a perfect excuse as I bumped into a ledderhose disease progression friend who invited me for coffee. I said yes then quickly changed my mind and said ledderhose disease progression no I can’t. Drove off quickly before I could change my mind, instead of feeling down I actually felt triumphant that I ledderhose disease progression was strong enough not to cave and go in. Car was still there as I drove past after appointment ledderhose disease progression but gone after dropping child x off at school, strangely did not feel disappointed, actually more relieved, I think I finally exhaled slowly.

Scharnhorst, I can totally see how remaining here keeps you “in the game”. On a selfish note, you are an asset to the rest of us. You help some of us get our “fix” when we visit the site to see if anyone has ledderhose disease progression posted…anything. I check here a couple of times per day to ledderhose disease progression make sure I don’t miss something that rolled off of the “most recent” comments area. I’m still very much learning about myself and definitely not ledderhose disease progression out of the game yet.

On a side note, because I haven’t fully disclosed to my SO, I am not seeing how I could pay for help ledderhose disease progression with my limerence, whether the EDC or other professional help, without my SO finding out. Though one good thing about being married and sharing finances ledderhose disease progression while limerent is the extra barrier that helps me from ledderhose disease progression making even worse decisions with LO. It also helps that I’m no longer in a place where I completely throw ledderhose disease progression reason and logic out of the window. You could say my new baseline pain/sorrow is certainly lower than the height, but not yet near the level prior to my LE.

For me, things are lining up. It’s been less than a month since I checked LO ledderhose disease progression #4’s FB page but it seems longer. She didn’t reply to my email wishing her a happy anniversary. It’s been 3 years since we said goodbye and she’s still 2500 miles away. When songs come on that remind me of her, I change the channel or skip past past them. I can still see how I’d interact with LO #4 but I can’t see any way that could come to pass and ledderhose disease progression I don’t want it to. But, that image doesn’t come of it’s own accord much anymore. I have to pull it up. Being here pulls it up. I could be the poster child for the effectiveness of ledderhose disease progression No Contact.

It was really interesting. If you buy into it, my wife is my Soulmate but LO #2 is my Twin Flame. The article describes my 5 yr relationship with LO #2 to an uncanny degree. We failed at Step 6. What makes this even weirder is LO #2 was into Astrology, claimed to have a Past Life Regression to the late ledderhose disease progression Middle Ages, and had a Tarot Card reading done on us. The PLR showed we were no more successful in that ledderhose disease progression life than we were in this one. The prognosis of the Tarot card reading was “Maybe if we spent 20 years together on a desert ledderhose disease progression island, we could make it work.” Not even the Cosmos had any hope for us. I flat out asked the therapist if, in her professional opinion, could our relationship ever been viable. She said that in her professional opinion, the answer was no. She also said LO #2’s metaphysical belief was a convenient construct to avoid taking ledderhose disease progression responsibility for her unhappiness. After all, you can’t fight the Cosmos…. LO #2 was a professional martyr when I met her.

Now, if you talk to any clinician worth their salt that ledderhose disease progression has experience in disordered attachment and go through the article, there is nothing there that can’t be explained clinically. If you have a disordered attachment and run into someone ledderhose disease progression with the same core issues you have, it’s natural to be drawn to them. It would be interesting to do some kind of study ledderhose disease progression to see if there’s a correlation of attachment style/trauma and Twin Flames. I’d bet lunch there is.

2.5 yrs ago before meeting LO my SO and I ledderhose disease progression had a fairly fantastic sex life, life was sweet, our libidos matched and there was plenty of action. Enter medication that SO needed to take and it started ledderhose disease progression messing with his body, sex became infrequent and often unsatisfying for me as it ledderhose disease progression felt like a race I regularly lost. This downhill slide started off slowly, almost unnoticeable but gathered momentum. I was so confused as I knew logically it had ledderhose disease progression nothing to do with SO’s desire for me but it started knawing at my ledderhose disease progression confidence and self worth. I started losing weight, taking care of my appearance more and bought all sorts ledderhose disease progression of sexy lingerie to grab his attention, it was almost obsessive. Enter LO 18 months ago, at that stage he was on my radar but no ledderhose disease progression fantasies yet, those started in earnest a few months ago when sex ledderhose disease progression was almost non existent between SO and I. I felt unattractive, resentful, rejected and was sexually climbing the proverbial walls. So here I was finally looking “hot” and ready to have sex while SO just wanted to ledderhose disease progression turn his back and sleep. My fantasies for LO were so persistent that I had ledderhose disease progression constant dreams about him that woke me up in a ledderhose disease progression sweat, I was petrified and ashamed that SO would find out. Everyone kept commenting how wonderful I looked yet SO didn’t seem interested, thus the downward spiral of limerence was set in motion.

Since disclosure to SO things have improved vastly, we make time to just touch (one of the things I missed most in our marriage) and kiss without rushing to the finish line. He’s been very attentive and sweet and I feel loved ledderhose disease progression and appreciated. I know there’s a long road ahead but feel we can make ledderhose disease progression it work, we’ve read up on alternative medicine he can take with ledderhose disease progression less side effects and we have a few options. I don’t think we’ve stopped talking since disclosure, each day there’s something new to share with him.

Lee-Anne, thank you for your candor in sharing (above) your experience. I have been and am in a similar situation, with my libido becoming volcanic just as my SO’s libido disappeared altogether (combination of age, medical issues, and external life circumstances; he doesn’t want it to be that way and I believe ledderhose disease progression him when he says that his love for me and ledderhose disease progression my objective attractiveness are not the problem). Goodness, just writing that down helps me see starkly how my ledderhose disease progression marital situation puts terrible pressure on my capacity to maintain ledderhose disease progression proper boundaries around LO. I’ve managed, but the psychic cost is immense and when I reflect ledderhose disease progression on that, it is a great motivator to stay away from LO.

My limerence experience has been, among other things, a five-alarm-fire wake-up call that my SO and I want to work ledderhose disease progression on our marriage. For the first 20 years we coasted happily along not ledderhose disease progression needing to put any effort into it, and it’s a novelty that we have to put effort into ledderhose disease progression it now, but we’re both game and excited to see how we can ledderhose disease progression grow and develop together in a new phase of our ledderhose disease progression lives — and bring back our libidinal partnership! I’m inspired by hearing about how your relationship with your ledderhose disease progression SO is improving. Best wishes to you.

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